I recently had an absolute sh*t day. A total meltdown.
I had negative thoughts about everything, and the lunatic voice I share my brain with was having a great day. Thoughts that started out mildly negative quickly turned into catastrophic events in my imagination.
Then my self-discipline decided to leave the party, allowing me to eat crap and forget going to the gym or my morning rituals!
I had massive uncertainty about everything. Doubt and fear were running rampant, causing procrastination and a complete lack of focus and direction, making the negative emotions even stronger. It felt soul-destroying, burying my dreams and self-confidence under a massive rock.
I was self-sabotaging by letting thoughts of imaginary fears and doubt win over self-discipline. In this state, at that moment in time, my whole life felt like a failure. I couldn’t think of any successes I had achieved.
So, what did I do? I ate enough hollow carbs and sugar for a room full of nine-year-olds at a birthday party. I had brain fog and got nothing done on the work front.
These little behaviours compounded the negative energy and thoughts ripping through my mind and body. I felt at a complete loss to be able to alter my mindset or state. Yeah, I know what to do. I have read all the books, and I wrote one https://www.adhdaddults.com/. But I couldn’t get myself to take any positive action or switch my thoughts. I felt completely overwhelmed and out of control.
Looking back, I can think calmly about this event now a couple of days later, but at the time, not a hope in hell of any logical or rational debate to regain control of my executive function.
How did I get over my rough day? This is what I did the next day.
- That evening, before I when to bed, I put a post-it note on my keyboard that said, Today is a new day; forget the past and focus on all the great things in my life and take action towards your major goals.
- Release any emotions about yesterday…let it go! The past has no bearing on today. By letting go of the past, I am free to enjoy today.
- Go through my morning rituals.
- Practice awareness that I must control my thoughts. Choose only positive thoughts that support my goals and dreams as if they have already been achieved.
- Remember that my limitations are self-imposed
- Rise about false beliefs and my old identity.
- Be decisive and act quickly.
- Meditate for ten to twenty minutes
- Exercise and great nutrition
- Sleep …and repeat
“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.” ― Ralph Waldo Emerson